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How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself
How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself
A clinical psychologist cuts through the noise to bring you what works for social anxiety, perfectionism, and adjacent modern worries. Also some dad jokes. More at ellenhendriksen.com

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