You’ve tried talking to yourself kindly. You’ve asked yourself, “How would I talk to a good friend?” You’ve taken a swimming pool’s worth of self-care bubble baths. You’ve tried all the things: gratitude, self-compassion, mindfulness, blah, blah, blah.
Definitely 2-6 and 8 and 9. Especially 6, 8, and 9, and I think the thing these all have in common for me is this general feeling of not deserving self-compassion or being alright with myself, flaws and all. For almost my entire life I've felt I need to do much more than others in order to be treated as an equal---so when I fail to meet those standards I place on myself, criticizing myself does feel like atonement, in a sense, or necessary punishment, like being chastised or yelled at by a parent for disobeying them or a priest for committing a sin.
Definitely 2-6 and 8 and 9. Especially 6, 8, and 9, and I think the thing these all have in common for me is this general feeling of not deserving self-compassion or being alright with myself, flaws and all. For almost my entire life I've felt I need to do much more than others in order to be treated as an equal---so when I fail to meet those standards I place on myself, criticizing myself does feel like atonement, in a sense, or necessary punishment, like being chastised or yelled at by a parent for disobeying them or a priest for committing a sin.