How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself

How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself

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Try It Out: Three Exercises to Quiet Perfectionism and Self-Doubt
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The 4 Invisible Rules That Keep You Stuck (Part 2 of 2: Challenging the Rules)
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How to reassure yourself when you’re in a second-guessing spiral
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The Achievement Paradox: How Accomplishment Backfires (Plus What to Do Instead)
Or, how to keep your to-do list from becoming your personality
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How to know if you did a good job
Spoiler: the answer isn’t necessarily "People liked it.”
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Try It Out: Three Exercises to Quiet Perfectionism and Self-Doubt
Practical, hands-on strategies you can try right now.
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The 4 Invisible Rules That Keep You Stuck (Part 2 of 2: Challenging the Rules)
Don't worry: you don't have to flip from overachievement to Michael Scott
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How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself
How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself
A clinical psychologist cuts through the noise to bring you what works for social anxiety, perfectionism, and adjacent modern worries. Also some dad jokes. More at ellenhendriksen.com
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