Hi I really like this read.. I try pushing myself to gradually share with a few people I want to get to know better and be closer with. However what happens if no matter what you share, everytime, you don’t get much back… or they change the subject and continue to make it all about themselves.. I tend to feel like it’s one sided friendship and they don’t care about trying to get to know me or they think they know me when really they don’t.. or I feel like (sometimes I know so) they aren’t even listening to me when I speak… it makes me question to myself if this person is really worth my time and effort sharing with even if I would like them in my life?
I hear you--I've experienced this myself, and was recently talking with a client who brought up the same thing. Not everyone is tuned into the art of listening, or is curious about others' lives. Big picture, do you still enjoy their company? You may end up writing them off as confidants but still hang out because they're interesting or fun. My client decided she was only going to pursue deep friendships, even if it meant she would have fewer friends, while I'm happy to have people in my life at different levels of closeness. It's up to you and your values. May I use your comment as the basis of a newsletter? I have a hunch that lots of people are in your same boat!
Hi I really like this read.. I try pushing myself to gradually share with a few people I want to get to know better and be closer with. However what happens if no matter what you share, everytime, you don’t get much back… or they change the subject and continue to make it all about themselves.. I tend to feel like it’s one sided friendship and they don’t care about trying to get to know me or they think they know me when really they don’t.. or I feel like (sometimes I know so) they aren’t even listening to me when I speak… it makes me question to myself if this person is really worth my time and effort sharing with even if I would like them in my life?
I hear you--I've experienced this myself, and was recently talking with a client who brought up the same thing. Not everyone is tuned into the art of listening, or is curious about others' lives. Big picture, do you still enjoy their company? You may end up writing them off as confidants but still hang out because they're interesting or fun. My client decided she was only going to pursue deep friendships, even if it meant she would have fewer friends, while I'm happy to have people in my life at different levels of closeness. It's up to you and your values. May I use your comment as the basis of a newsletter? I have a hunch that lots of people are in your same boat!