Announcing my upcoming new book: HOW TO BE ENOUGH

Plus a sale! Who doesn't love a sale?

I’m ten pounds of happy in a five-pound sack! 

My new book, HOW TO BE ENOUGH: SELF-ACCEPTANCE FOR SELF-CRITICS AND PERFECTIONISTS, is written, edited, and dressed in a decidedly snazzy cover (scroll down to see!) It’s waiting in the wings and will step onstage in January 2025. It’s been a long time coming and I can’t wait to share it with YOU, dear reader.

An accurate portrayal of how I feel right now

I wrote this book to pick up where How to Be Yourself left off. Perfectionism is the heart of social anxiety, but it also hinders and (surprise!) helps us in lots of unexpected ways:

Like what? Great question! I’ll let the flap copy give us all an answer:

You hold high standards for yourself. You work hard. You may even get flattering compliments: on top of everything, accomplished, successful. 

But privately, you're your own toughest critic. You might feel like you’re falling behind, incompetent, left out, or different from everybody else. Despite your eagle-eyed inner quality control inspector ensuring you do things well and correctly, you may worry about getting judged or criticized. There’s a sense of chronic dissatisfaction, disconnection, loneliness, or burnout. 

In short, you may look like you’re hitting it out of the park, but you feel like you’re striking out.

This is perfectionism. And for everyone who struggles with it, it’s a misnomer: perfectionism isn’t about striving to be perfect. It’s about never feeling good enough. 

Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, clinical psychologist and author of How to Be Yourself, is here to help. In How to Be Enough, Hendriksen charts a flexible, forgiving, and freeing path, all without giving up the excellence your high standards and hard work have gotten you. She proposes seven shifts—including from self-criticism to kindness, from control to authenticity, from procrastination to productivity—to find self-acceptance, rewrite the inner rulebook, and most of all, cultivate the authentic human connections we’re all craving in this fast-paced, performance-obsessed world.

In a personal, compassionate voice, Hendriksen lays out a clear, effective, and empowering guide to be good to yourself when you’re wired to be hard on yourself.

While we’re here, may I also offer you a 25% discount? That’s like $7.50--go get yourself a good burrito with your savings. Mmmm….burritos. 

I digress: Pre-order from Barnes and Noble through July 17 and use code PREORDER25 for an exclusive discount for Premium Members and Rewards Members only. Not a member yet? No worries—it’s free to join Rewards. Reserve your copy now at https://bit.ly/HowToBeEnoughBN with the code PREORDER25.

I’m excited to share this book with you!

Be kind to others and yourself!